WEEk 4: HOME EXPLORATION //

WEEk 4: HOME EXPLORATION //

RECORDING

THIS WEEK …

Continue to explore, practice and play with the boundary practices that we explored within the live session, particularly deepening into the ‘Boundaries of Your Being’ practice (instructions below)

You will also find an audio recording on ‘Expanding Capacity For Dissapointment’ so that we can begin to walk more boldly through the world without sacrificing our authenticity.

THE BOUNDARIES OF YOUR BEING PRACTICE: (as practiced in the live session)

  1. Before you begin, take a pause and notice where your body is in this moment. Notice your physical body and where it is in this moment, the room, the physical space. Notice your breath, your emotional state and the sensations present within you. Noticing what it’s like to be you right now, in this space.

  2. Beginning at the top of your head place your hands on your body and say the words “This is me” or “Here I am” or “I am here.

  3. Then move down and place your hands on the next part of your body, slowly making your way from top of your head, right down to the soles of your feel. Every time you place your hands on a new part of your body, repeat the phrase.

  4. You might notice that some parts of your body need a bit more time with your words and tough than others.

  5. Feel the sensations of your touch, the pressure and temperature of your hands.

  6. Once you’ve moved through your entire body, anywhere from 5-30mins, take a moment to come into a pause, to stillness.

  7. What do you notice here? What do your notice about your experience and your relationship to the world now?

** This practice can be particularly supportive both before and after difficult conversations, exchanges and experiences with other beings **

THE FAWN RESPONSE: FEAR OF DISAPPOINTMENT

When we know that our truth is going to disappoint, upset or cause conflict with another person, our bodies feel the stress of imagining the effects of the other persons response. In some cases, our truth may mean that we lose a friendship, we lose a job, we don’t get promoted, that tensions will be held within the home.

So the potential of these outcomes, creates a stress response within me. When our source of strsss is another persons disappointment, upset etc. and we don’t have the capacity to be with that sensational experience, our go to response is to fawn.

It’s so clever - because it stops the other person from feeling disappointed and it stops me from feeling the stress of disappointing you. When this happen, external calm remains. There’s a temporary soothing. However that is a part that remains inside of us that is constricting, repressed and our true expression forced inwards. My body freezes my fight, my body freezes my no. And my body goes on to experience a reverberation of the stress, far longer and more intensely than if I was to experience the disappointment.

ONE WAY WE CAN BEGIN TO ACCESS MORE OF OUR AUTHENTICITY …

The next time someone asks you to do something, to help with something, or before you go in with offering your support, jumping in with a compliment …

Pause.

Connect to your body and assess your capacity.

If I say yes to this - how does my body respond? Do I expand? Can I breathe?

Or do I brace? Would I feel drained?

Allow your answer to arrive from a conscious, embodied place, rather than an automatic place.

This takes patience, practice and lots of compassion. Be gentle on yourself

As always, if you have any questions & need any support - I’ll be in the Telegram group.

Love,
Alex X